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YouKnowYouDeadAzzWrong: Episode #9694 - Question of the Day
Episode #9694 - Question of the Day
DOES AGE REALLY MAKE A DIFFERENCE WHEN IT COMES TO LOVE AND RELATIONSHIPS? WHY OR WHY NOT?? 2 YEARS, 4 YEARS, 6 YEARS, 10 YEARS... WHAT AGE DIFFERENCE IS TOO MUCH??
I personally dont care about age, however I had always had a tendacy to date older women, I have dated as much as 17 yrs older than me but that was about 5 years ago.
I dont beleive there is any such thing as too much as age difference, if one person is 30 and the other is 35 or if one person is 20 and the other is 60...if that is what you like and it makes you happy....then good, happiness is not as easy as it use to be in the world to come by and if that person makes you happy and you are mature enough to understand and accept that the age gap is not gonna shrink any as you get older then go for what you know. Reply to this
Anyways,it totally depends on the two individuals. If they have a lot in common (which may be the case,though you wouldn't think so),and they mesh well,it's just a number. I know youger people who are mature beyond their years,and I know older people who,well...you've seen some of the pics on this site! But if both parties are at the same point mentally,I don't think it makes a difference. Reply to this
Tuesday, October 26. 2010
Anonymous wrote:
Age doesn't mean anything.. unless under 18 lol, i wouldn't go under 20 though n im 24. Now i wouldn't go over 40yo. But like i said age doesn't really mean anything, they can be 35 n still act like they're 15, age ain't nothin but a number, i look for good personality n maturity. Reply to this
Tuesday, October 26. 2010
BlackBarbie7 wrote:
When it comes to love, there isn't much you can do about who you fall for, age does not factor into that equation. You love who you love regardless of their age. Now when it comes to relationships or rather entering a relationship with someone, age does influence people's decisions from time to time. Some say age should not really matter if you are compatible where likes, dislikes, moral and other standards are concerned. In my experience, I have found that my intellectual, emotional and spiritual requirements/needs are much better satisfied with someone older and more mature, whereas, the sexual and or physical intimacies are more adequately satisfied by a younger man. This proves to me that being in love and being in a relationship and neither mutually inclusive nor exclusive concepts; because being in love would mean that I'm having this wonderful rapport with this person who is meeting all my needs and I am meeting all of his, and this is the person I cannot bear to be without. This has not always been the case in my limited experience. For me it has always been a double edged sword, It may be that I find myself in love with someone young but he isn't able to meet all my needs, or I find myself in a relationship with someone I'm not necessarily head over heels for but he is mature and all my needs are being met. Love is complicated and I think from now on I will not focus so much on age but more on whether we click. Reply to this
Tuesday, October 26. 2010
BlackBarbie7 wrote:
Damn that was long-winded.... I apologize ya'll. I don't think I would date anyone more than 5 years younger than myself or more than 10 years my senior. Reply to this
Tuesday, October 26. 2010
Janee wrote:
It does...and im realizing it now..my boyfriend is 39 turning 40 this week and im 20..as much fun as we have together ( and as much as we like and are compatible), i can def see it really wont work in the end..we are at 2 diff paths in life..i just started and he has already "been there done that"...there is also alot of differences in what we wanna do...if i wasnt so open minded....smh...he wants to get married soon..and have kids now..but me..im almost done school...have nothing of value to my name..and i havent even begun a career...and kids and family wont come into the equation for 7-9 yrs from now...and he is pressed for them now...
but like BlackBarbie 7 said...you sometimes can help who you love and or attracted to... im attracted to older ppl...but right now..i dnt see myself getting into another relationship with one until i have myself together Reply to this
Tuesday, October 26. 2010
longhairdntcare wrote:
well im 20 & my bf is 30. when we 1st got together i was 19 & he was 29. all his friends said that he shud hit it & quit it. they said he was to old to be trying to have a future with a "baby". but what they didnt know was that i had my own place, was wrkn full time, & was goin to skool full time. i was fresh outta high school & on my grown woman shit. ive always been mature for my age, so ive always attracted older guys. but hes the oldest that ive been with & i plan to keep it like that. & to the shock of all his friends, we're in the process of building a future together. the sex is GREAT!!! he wears me the fck out. i be tired, nigga wont let me tap out & shit. i see it like this if can make it work with some 1 2-10 yrs older than you, do tha damn thang, if not stick with ppl yo own fckn age. Reply to this
Wednesday, October 27. 2010
TheOriginalFairytale wrote:
girl I feel you and I was in the same situation....now I am in another one but my boyfriend is currently a little older now...Im 21 and he is 35....so far things are great....I mean we have open lines of communication and are both on the same paths so far in life....we have a lot in common and I think those things are just some of the elements that make a relationship work....to me age really isnt important...but I have never been that type of woman to date someone younger then me or even my age....tried it once and didnt work out....I have always attracted older men for some reason....but I wouldnt date no damn grandma....no they definitely have to be able to keep up with me! lol Reply to this
Tuesday, October 26. 2010
Monica wrote:
Hmmm I guess it depends on the age of the people involved. I know a girl who started going out with her boyfriend (now husband) when she was 14 and he was 32. She got pregnant by him and had a secret child by him that she never told anyone about. She's 20 now and has had another kid by him and they got married but I still find it gross. What the hell do a 14 year old and a 32 year old have in common anyway? WTF did they talk about?? And she never shows anyone any pictures of him, she never tells anyone how old he actually is and they're never seen together. When we would go to competitions (she was on one of my sports teams) she would always refer to him as a "family friend". And her mom was perfectly okay with it.
Anyway, as long as the people involved are over 18, I think it's fine. The only problem is, what would an 18 year old have in common with say a 40 year old? Reply to this
Wednesday, October 27. 2010
stephanie wrote:
well im 17 and my bf is 19.. I come from a very strict famiy.. and I knw by laww I can not be with him.. but u can't help if you love the person.. some say he's jus in it to get wht every guy wannts and leave.. and they say.. he's in college what can he possibly want with a high school chick.. what they don't see is that we love each other very much.. and age shldnt matter. I may be 17 but im not naive or innocent. It all depends on the maturity of the individual. we've been together for 5 months and I know he's here to stay.. no matter how my family doesn't wnt us to be together and keep us apart.. he's always there. Reply to this
Wednesday, October 27. 2010ThundaCunt wrote:
lmaooo..i am sorry i couldnt stop laughing at "we've been together for 5 months and I know he's here to stay.. "
CTFU....ooo young love!! to be this naive again!!! chile, i hope you know he will be gone after his first Kegger...if you are mature you have to know this wont work!! Reply to this
Wednesday, October 27. 2010BluStarr wrote:
Age shouldn't really be a factor if that's who you love why would you let a number come between that...no with that being said make sure they legal at least....if not jus wait a couple years until they are.....well lol if the feelings are still there anyways!!! Reply to this
No I dont think age matters....go that out the way...
However I think the problem lies with one of the biggest mistakes the Young and immature make and that thinking they are mature and the problem with The experienced is seeing this and ignoring it for youth.
Young people and I would say young women more than young men, go into the younger-older relationships like they were too retarded to do math, They do it for two or three years and say - Oh we want different things in life, he is on a different path, He wants to settle down and have kids and I still have things I want to do......WTF???
If you meet a Man in his 30's yes he is gonna want kinds, yes he is gonna want to settle down, Yes he is gonna enjoy the finer thing in life like an evening of star gazing, fine wine, a little jazz, and a thin mink blanket to keep away any chill while holding his woman- as apposed to sippin 'yack, smoking blunts, gettin burnt/bent and droppin it like it hot at the local hole in the wall club. Yeah he is gonna want children of his own and to be the Man he is supposed to be. This is pure fuckin common sense before you even start but again this is the actions of the immature as well as.......
The older person in the relationship....C'mon..you knew better, you knew you didnt pick up a Mature young woman or mature young man, you picked up a child and you knew it...but if was Fun though right, the sex, the youth, the hangin out and doin the things that maybe you felt you missed out on, or trying to relive some things but you knew this person wasnt gonna last, not because they were young but because they were immature and because you ignored the immaturity and didnt keep it on a "just having fun" level and tried to make a long lasting relationship happen that shows that you too are still immature. Reply to this
Wednesday, October 27. 2010
Dub wrote:
The oldest woman I ever had a relationship with was 10 years older than me. It wasn't bad at all, we just has some outside influences that messed it up. Reply to this
Wednesday, October 27. 2010
Dr. Kiti wrote:
When I was 25 I dated a man who was 15 years older, making him 40 years old. We'd never discussed age prior to dating so I had no idea of how much older he was (I was never into men that are significantly younger or older than me).
One day the 'age talk' came up. After he told me he was 40 I tried to hang in there because he was a nice guy, handsome and held down a respectable job. However, one night, as we were starting to get busy, he says 'oooh girl, I'mma pull your diaper down!'
I was done. I left and never came back. That comment went too far for me so I blamed my departure on 'wanting to be alone to find myself'.
Damn...I really miss his Tempurpedic mattress. Haven't has a decent night's sleep in 6 years... Reply to this
Wednesday, October 27. 2010
KayBorn wrote:
What?!?!?! C'mon...C'mon...seriously....Ok champ was a freak but you left cause you wanted to not cause he was into pulling down ya diaper ( even thought that is funny as shit and kinda gross at the sametime). Reply to this
Wednesday, October 27. 2010
BlackBarbie7 wrote:
Lol @ the diaper talk. When I was 19, I started dating a guy who was 36. Initially he was reluctant to date me because even though he found me very attractive, he always said he felt like he was robbing the cradle. At first when he said that my mind went to weird places (especially because his Mom was one of my elementary school teachers), but after a while it kinda became our little private joke. At that time I was just starting college and he wanted me to have a child for him (he admitted that he was being selfish to ask that of me at my age). It was one of my best relationships though. He would often tell me that sometimes he would completely forget I was so young because of my level of maturity. Reply to this
Wednesday, October 27. 2010
HighYellaFella wrote:
(and just think-if you woulda hung in there with him for another 20 odd years,you'd be changing HIS diaper! LMAO)
But I do think society conditions us that the man should be always older and stuff. I will say this:my grandma must have been a trend-setter,cause she was like 11 years older than my grandfather,and I can just imagine what THAT must have been like back in her day! But they were married like 70+ years,so...it is what it is,I guess. Reply to this
Wednesday, October 27. 2010
Anonymous wrote:
HA,HA,HA...Pull your diaper down? WTF? ooo...I've dated 2 men 10 years older than 1, was crazy...but it was GOOOOOOODDD! YA HEAR ME?!? The other I was with for 10 years and we did the whole family thing, ring, house kid...We didn't work out but it had NOTHING to do with age. Reply to this
Wednesday, October 27. 2010
Velise wrote:
I have always preferred older men to younger men and I have never dated anyone more than a year younger than me. I am 32 years old now and there is no way I can even imagine myself interested in a 20 year old man - we wouldn't even be on the same wavelength. But I could see myself dating a 40 yr old.
I guess it depends on where you're at in your life, and what is important to you. What I was into when I was 20 is not the same as now. Reply to this
Wednesday, October 27. 2010
RacHiiLuV wrote:
Pretty much ever since I started dating I've always been attracted to older men. My last bf was 9yrs my senior but things didn't work out because he thought he could manipulate me. I was and still am more mature that my years. I'm 21, we started dating when I was 19. The one before him was 7yrs older than me.
The problem I see with older men and younger women, from my experience, is that the older men like to play mind games because like someone else said they've been there and done that. So as a result of my past experiences I'm now dating (or at least trying) in a closer age range to see if age does make a difference because I really don't know. Maybe its just the men I fuck with LOL Reply to this
Wednesday, October 27. 2010
Soul_Sunnie wrote:
I've always been attracted to older men, still am but I think it makes a difference when it comes to future goals and compatibility. I just recently dated a man who was 20 years older than me... as of right now, it's cool but in the long term scheme of things, I'm still in my mid 20's and he's in his mid 40's. What happen's when I want children or when it's time to meet the family and mom finds out he's less than 4 years YOUNGER than her. Our life experience are totally different and yes, I'll admit, it kinda creeps me out to think when I was 2nd grade, he was a grown ass man still married to his ex-wife. Right now, I think I could ONLY do, 2 years younger, 10 to 12 years older. Reply to this
Wednesday, October 27. 2010
Anonymous wrote:
No. My dude was 11 years older than me. We were together for about 10 yrs. I'm very mature for my age...so in actuality I was older than him on some levels. I'm attracted to men older than me. Has to be somebody really put together in order for me to date younger. Reply to this
I don't know... how old is KayBorn?
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A very young but Mature 31.
I personally dont care about age, however I had always had a tendacy to date older women, I have dated as much as 17 yrs older than me but that was about 5 years ago.
I dont beleive there is any such thing as too much as age difference, if one person is 30 and the other is 35 or if one person is 20 and the other is 60...if that is what you like and it makes you happy....then good, happiness is not as easy as it use to be in the world to come by and if that person makes you happy and you are mature enough to understand and accept that the age gap is not gonna shrink any as you get older then go for what you know.
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lol,WhatUSaid ain't right!
Anyways,it totally depends on the two individuals. If they have a lot in common (which may be the case,though you wouldn't think so),and they mesh well,it's just a number. I know youger people who are mature beyond their years,and I know older people who,well...you've seen some of the pics on this site! But if both parties are at the same point mentally,I don't think it makes a difference.
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Age doesn't mean anything.. unless under 18 lol, i wouldn't go under 20 though n im 24. Now i wouldn't go over 40yo. But like i said age doesn't really mean anything, they can be 35 n still act like they're 15, age ain't nothin but a number, i look for good personality n maturity.
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When it comes to love, there isn't much you can do about who you fall for, age does not factor into that equation. You love who you love regardless of their age. Now when it comes to relationships or rather entering a relationship with someone, age does influence people's decisions from time to time. Some say age should not really matter if you are compatible where likes, dislikes, moral and other standards are concerned. In my experience, I have found that my intellectual, emotional and spiritual requirements/needs are much better satisfied with someone older and more mature, whereas, the sexual and or physical intimacies are more adequately satisfied by a younger man. This proves to me that being in love and being in a relationship and neither mutually inclusive nor exclusive concepts; because being in love would mean that I'm having this wonderful rapport with this person who is meeting all my needs and I am meeting all of his, and this is the person I cannot bear to be without. This has not always been the case in my limited experience. For me it has always been a double edged sword, It may be that I find myself in love with someone young but he isn't able to meet all my needs, or I find myself in a relationship with someone I'm not necessarily head over heels for but he is mature and all my needs are being met. Love is complicated and I think from now on I will not focus so much on age but more on whether we click.
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Damn that was long-winded.... I apologize ya'll. I don't think I would date anyone more than 5 years younger than myself or more than 10 years my senior.
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LOL @your summary. Co-sign on your first post.
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It does...and im realizing it now..my boyfriend is 39 turning 40 this week and im 20..as much fun as we have together ( and as much as we like and are compatible), i can def see it really wont work in the end..we are at 2 diff paths in life..i just started and he has already "been there done that"...there is also alot of differences in what we wanna do...if i wasnt so open minded....smh...he wants to get married soon..and have kids now..but me..im almost done school...have nothing of value to my name..and i havent even begun a career...and kids and family wont come into the equation for 7-9 yrs from now...and he is pressed for them now...
but like BlackBarbie 7 said...you sometimes can help who you love and or attracted to... im attracted to older ppl...but right now..i dnt see myself getting into another relationship with one until i have myself together
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well im 20 & my bf is 30. when we 1st got together i was 19 & he was 29. all his friends said that he shud hit it & quit it. they said he was to old to be trying to have a future with a "baby". but what they didnt know was that i had my own place, was wrkn full time, & was goin to skool full time. i was fresh outta high school & on my grown woman shit. ive always been mature for my age, so ive always attracted older guys. but hes the oldest that ive been with & i plan to keep it like that. & to the shock of all his friends, we're in the process of building a future together.
the sex is GREAT!!! he wears me the fck out. i be tired, nigga wont let me tap out & shit. i see it like this if can make it work with some 1 2-10 yrs older than you, do tha damn thang, if not stick with ppl yo own fckn age.
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girl I feel you and I was in the same situation....now I am in another one but my boyfriend is currently a little older now...Im 21 and he is 35....so far things are great....I mean we have open lines of communication and are both on the same paths so far in life....we have a lot in common and I think those things are just some of the elements that make a relationship work....to me age really isnt important...but I have never been that type of woman to date someone younger then me or even my age....tried it once and didnt work out....I have always attracted older men for some reason....but I wouldnt date no damn grandma....no they definitely have to be able to keep up with me! lol
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Hmmm I guess it depends on the age of the people involved. I know a girl who started going out with her boyfriend (now husband) when she was 14 and he was 32. She got pregnant by him and had a secret child by him that she never told anyone about. She's 20 now and has had another kid by him and they got married but I still find it gross. What the hell do a 14 year old and a 32 year old have in common anyway? WTF did they talk about?? And she never shows anyone any pictures of him, she never tells anyone how old he actually is and they're never seen together. When we would go to competitions (she was on one of my sports teams) she would always refer to him as a "family friend". And her mom was perfectly okay with it.
Anyway, as long as the people involved are over 18, I think it's fine. The only problem is, what would an 18 year old have in common with say a 40 year old?
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well im 17 and my bf is 19.. I come from a very strict famiy.. and I knw by laww I can not be with him.. but u can't help if you love the person.. some say he's jus in it to get wht every guy wannts and leave.. and they say.. he's in college what can he possibly want with a high school chick.. what they don't see is that we love each other very much.. and age shldnt matter. I may be 17 but im not naive or innocent. It all depends on the maturity of the individual.
we've been together for 5 months and I know he's here to stay.. no matter how my family doesn't wnt us to be together and keep us apart.. he's always there.
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I dont really see a problem with this actually...its not like its a wide ass gap in age..
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lmaooo..i am sorry i couldnt stop laughing at "we've been together for 5 months and I know he's here to stay.. "
CTFU....ooo young love!! to be this naive again!!! chile, i hope you know he will be gone after his first Kegger...if you are mature you have to know this wont work!!
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Age shouldn't really be a factor if that's who you love why would you let a number come between that...no with that being said make sure they legal at least....if not jus wait a couple years until they are.....well lol if the feelings are still there anyways!!!
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I had to post again...
No I dont think age matters....go that out the way...
However I think the problem lies with one of the biggest mistakes the Young and immature make and that thinking they are mature and the problem with The experienced is seeing this and ignoring it for youth.
Young people and I would say young women more than young men, go into the younger-older relationships like they were too retarded to do math, They do it for two or three years and say - Oh we want different things in life, he is on a different path, He wants to settle down and have kids and I still have things I want to do......WTF???
If you meet a Man in his 30's yes he is gonna want kinds, yes he is gonna want to settle down, Yes he is gonna enjoy the finer thing in life like an evening of star gazing, fine wine, a little jazz, and a thin mink blanket to keep away any chill while holding his woman- as apposed to sippin 'yack, smoking blunts, gettin burnt/bent and droppin it like it hot at the local hole in the wall club. Yeah he is gonna want children of his own and to be the Man he is supposed to be. This is pure fuckin common sense before you even start but again this is the actions of the immature as well as.......
The older person in the relationship....C'mon..you knew better, you knew you didnt pick up a Mature young woman or mature young man, you picked up a child and you knew it...but if was Fun though right, the sex, the youth, the hangin out and doin the things that maybe you felt you missed out on, or trying to relive some things but you knew this person wasnt gonna last, not because they were young but because they were immature and because you ignored the immaturity and didnt keep it on a "just having fun" level and tried to make a long lasting relationship happen that shows that you too are still immature.
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The oldest woman I ever had a relationship with was 10 years older than me. It wasn't bad at all, we just has some outside influences that messed it up.
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When I was 25 I dated a man who was 15 years older, making him 40 years old. We'd never discussed age prior to dating so I had no idea of how much older he was (I was never into men that are significantly younger or older than me).
One day the 'age talk' came up. After he told me he was 40 I tried to hang in there because he was a nice guy, handsome and held down a respectable job. However, one night, as we were starting to get busy, he says 'oooh girl, I'mma pull your diaper down!'
I was done. I left and never came back. That comment went too far for me so I blamed my departure on 'wanting to be alone to find myself'.
Damn...I really miss his Tempurpedic mattress. Haven't has a decent night's sleep in 6 years...
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What?!?!?! C'mon...C'mon...seriously....Ok champ was a freak but you left cause you wanted to not cause he was into pulling down ya diaper ( even thought that is funny as shit and kinda gross at the sametime).
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Lol @ the diaper talk. When I was 19, I started dating a guy who was 36. Initially he was reluctant to date me because even though he found me very attractive, he always said he felt like he was robbing the cradle. At first when he said that my mind went to weird places (especially because his Mom was one of my elementary school teachers), but after a while it kinda became our little private joke. At that time I was just starting college and he wanted me to have a child for him (he admitted that he was being selfish to ask that of me at my age). It was one of my best relationships though. He would often tell me that sometimes he would completely forget I was so young because of my level of maturity.
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(and just think-if you woulda hung in there with him for another 20 odd years,you'd be changing HIS diaper! LMAO)
But I do think society conditions us that the man should be always older and stuff. I will say this:my grandma must have been a trend-setter,cause she was like 11 years older than my grandfather,and I can just imagine what THAT must have been like back in her day! But they were married like 70+ years,so...it is what it is,I guess.
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HA,HA,HA...Pull your diaper down? WTF? ooo...I've dated 2 men 10 years older than 1, was crazy...but it was GOOOOOOODDD! YA HEAR ME?!? The other I was with for 10 years and we did the whole family thing, ring, house kid...We didn't work out but it had NOTHING to do with age.
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I have always preferred older men to younger men and I have never dated anyone more than a year younger than me. I am 32 years old now and there is no way I can even imagine myself interested in a 20 year old man - we wouldn't even be on the same wavelength. But I could see myself dating a 40 yr old.
I guess it depends on where you're at in your life, and what is important to you. What I was into when I was 20 is not the same as now.
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Pretty much ever since I started dating I've always been attracted to older men. My last bf was 9yrs my senior but things didn't work out because he thought he could manipulate me. I was and still am more mature that my years. I'm 21, we started dating when I was 19. The one before him was 7yrs older than me.
The problem I see with older men and younger women, from my experience, is that the older men like to play mind games because like someone else said they've been there and done that. So as a result of my past experiences I'm now dating (or at least trying) in a closer age range to see if age does make a difference because I really don't know. Maybe its just the men I fuck with LOL
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I've always been attracted to older men, still am but I think it makes a difference when it comes to future goals and compatibility. I just recently dated a man who was 20 years older than me... as of right now, it's cool but in the long term scheme of things, I'm still in my mid 20's and he's in his mid 40's. What happen's when I want children or when it's time to meet the family and mom finds out he's less than 4 years YOUNGER than her. Our life experience are totally different and yes, I'll admit, it kinda creeps me out to think when I was 2nd grade, he was a grown ass man still married to his ex-wife. Right now, I think I could ONLY do, 2 years younger, 10 to 12 years older.
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No. My dude was 11 years older than me. We were together for about 10 yrs. I'm very mature for my age...so in actuality I was older than him on some levels. I'm attracted to men older than me. Has to be somebody really put together in order for me to date younger.
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