Episode #10132 - Question of the Day
WOULD YOU SERIOUSLY DATE SOMEONE WHO WAS CELIBATE?? WOULD YOU BE MONOGAMOUS??
Posted by DurtyMo at Wednesday, November 24. 2010 
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I absolutely would! I'd actually prefer that since I'm celibate. haha
The real question is would you date them and not try to pressure them or belittle their choice.
My ex did that because I was still a virgin and tried to say that I had issues with growing up and blah blah blah. Finally I got tired of hearing it and gave it up.
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HELL NO!! Now Im not against anyone and their life choices but I couldnt do it!!! I like my sex and I need it/want it on the regular and being in a celibate relationship is just not in the cards for me!!! I would run in the other direction.....
plus I would run through too many batteries and toys dealing with that mess....I would have to endorse duracell or energizer messing with a celibate person lmao
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I actually cannot believe we had more "yes" than "no" answers on this... Anyways, just wanted to let u know, even if we're the minority, I'M WITH U! Lmao
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Depends on how long we're being celibate for. I'd love to date someone who isn't just looking to have sex with me because I keep getting hurt over guys who I genuinely like who only want to get in and get out (it's hard when you're only 19 and most of the guys you meet are immature). But celibate for more than 6 months might be a little bit of an issue.
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I have been celebate for 2years. Men seemed to like it actually, since they knew I wasn't givin it up.
But I would date a celebate man , I would know he's not cheating on me and it would give us a chance to know each other on a intellectual level than jus physical.
Ppl place too much on sex.
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deep i like it because its so true
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I agree wholeheartedly Bay.....if more people would actually DATE instead of being so quick to MATE, it would probably reduce a lot of these negatives that keep rising up(unwanted/unplanned pregnancies, divorce, domestic abuse, single parent households, etc).....removing the physical act allows you to see things more clearly & appreciate each other more......it also allows you the opportunity to see what you DON'T want in a person, which is usually ignored when the sex is off the chain......IMHO(in my humble opinion)
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I don't even have to comment now cuz you said everything...
This generation puts wayyyyyy to much on sex, and for sum reason its not registering that
No sex + DATING equals LESS PROBLEMS...
Sex does not make a relationship n it damn sure shouldn't break it...
People need to grow up..
Loved this...
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To be honest, I'm celibate myself. Have been for the longest (nearly 2 years too). I had always had it in my mind that I would only be intimate with ONE man and that man would be my husband. But when I fell in love for the first time (at 21) that flew out of the window. Well he's history now.
I have no regrets about it though. But since that happened, I have a new stance: to not give up the cookies until I at least am more sure of our future i.e. he's come to meet my mother with his brothers/father/uncle (very big deal in my culture) and we are engaged.
I have only been involved with two guys and both of them I had gotten to know on a very deep level. As I had been intimate with the first guy and it didn't work out, I was determined to just not repeat that mistake with the second. It was very hard especially as I was so crazy about him.
Even though our relationship was not a physical one, we still had our problems and here I am heartbroken again.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that just because you're not intimate with the guy doesn't make it any less painful when things go awry. Dealing with our fellow human beings is always messy...
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i would because i prefer to be celibate. i'd be happy if a man would want me to be celibate with him then i'd know the relationship would not be all about sex
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I definitely would.It prob would make my life a lot easier
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I would. I was celibate for two years before I met my husband. It really wasn't that bad. You actually date and when the men get tired of me with my legs closed they just went away instead of fu(king me and then going away. The timing is about the same I guess. It is good measurement of the opposite sex.
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Probably not.
While I agree there are probably a lot of people who put too much emphasis on sex in a relationship,I also think that the opposite can be true-there are a lot of people who don't put ENOUGH of an emphasis on it,or dole it out like it's a reward or something. I think that if you're celibate and single,cool,you don't want to get caught up with all the random stuff going on out there. BUT if you're in a relationship,shouldn't part of that relationship involve sharing a higher level of intimacy? I mean,if I'm with you for some time and mentally we are at that level,yet physically (for whatever reason) you don't want to go there with me...? I'd feel like I wasn't getting 100 of you,and I wouldn't be.
So again..probably not. Good post though!
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Ive been celibate for about 3 years now and Im a GUY lol. The woman i've been with wants to wait until marriage to have sex and it was hard for me at first but after a while, it isn't so bad. Its all about self control because alot of guys cant do it, If i can do it, im sure any guy can
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No.
I think a lot of the value that people place on celibacy is tied in with Christianity, and as a non-Christian, I've noticed that any man who places a Biblically-based value on celibacy isn't going to be happy with an atheist for a partner. (For many other reasons besides sex, too. I generally pass on Christian guys these days--it is so hard for them to respect my beliefs when their beliefs are telling them to save the girl they like from an eternity of hell.) Someone who has a problem with my decision to have sex before marriage is going to have a lot of problems with a lot of other things I do.
Also, I like having sex.
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I decided off sex not for religious purposes but the town I live in is jus too small.. girls I went to elementary school with, have kids by guys who I went to middle school with, who are now dating guys I went to high school with.
I don't want any passed around peen
And once I'm in a serious relationship I want to make sure its because he wants to be with me and not jus because he feels like he can "win me over".
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Hell yes. It would be good to spend that time getting to know each other.
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Ok. Notice that a turkey has its tail as a ' spread of feathers ', the turkey represents the Native Indian Chiefs who wore a crown with feathers similar to the Turkey's tail. The killing and preparation of the Turkey represents the killings of the Native Indian Chiefs...
Cranberry is self explanatory. Cranberry's color is the color of Blood. The blood of our brothers and sisters who were viciously murdered at the hands of the edomite pilgrims AND SOME OF OUR BLACK ANCESTORS
( the Buffalo Soldiers ) WHO WERE USED TO KILL THE SWIFTEST ONES OF THE NATIVE INDIAN TRIBES. I forget the name of that tribe, but I will find out tho.
Dressing. This here is just pathetic...those evil edomite pilgrims cut off the breasts of the Native Indian Women and young women, and used it to play BASEBALL....BASEBALL PEOPLE!!!!!
So, NO I refuse to celebrate a day of mass murder of my brothers and sisters by the hands of the edomite pilgrims.
I will celebrate when the Almighty God repays the edomites for all the evil that they have done and the blood they have spilled on this land that doesnt even belong to them.
That song that Bob Marley got called Buffalo Soldiers is a lie. He probably didnt know it tho, because he probably read the fake history books just like the majority of America.
The Buffalo Soldiers ( who are the tribe of Judah, descendants of Jacob ) were used to KILL the tribe of Native Indians ( who are also descendants of Jacob ) that the evil edomite pilgrims could not catch. That tribe was too fast for the so-called pilgrims, so they commissioned or tricked the Buffalo Soldiers into helping them catch that tribe, so they could murder them. Which they did.
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Umm....(scratches head).....wtf?!! This post is about celibacy, u all off on some other tangent....
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You probably are eating our beloved chieftain smothered in cranberry blood. Shame on you celebrating this.
SHAME ON ALL OF YOU!
REPENT!
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Shame on ya'll!
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CHUUUUUUUUUURCH!
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Why do you come on here acting like Whoopi Goldberg's character in For Colored Girls???!!!!...... I have NO IDEA what gibberish you're spouting & trying to pass it off as Higher Knowledge.....I would suggest you create a blog of your own so that "likeminded" individuals can share all your worldly wisdom together.....sooooo before you jump to conclusions I'm a Raw Vegan and my mind isn't polluted by the "Edomites"......LMBO!!!!!.....
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Of course you don't understand what i'm trying say you are a simple self hating black female!!!!!!!!!!
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P.S.
So I guess that also means you do not accept the blood of Jesus during communion. God said we cannot survive on bread only. I did not see for colored girls because Tyletta Perry is a false prophet and not anointed.
You vile evil vegan.
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YOU'RE HILARIOUS!!!!....your cyber posturing puts me in a cheerful holiday mood(since it NEVER snows here).....the act of communion (I.e. GRAPE JUICE/unfermented wine) during worship is a METAPHORIC symbol of the ULTIMATE sacrifice made for us ALL(even mentally unstable creatures).....since there is NO PHYSICAL BLOOD(aka human/animal) I would have no problem taking communion if I desired to do so.....sooooooo there ya go!!!....BTW I don't eat bread either....LMBO!!!!....I find your name calling juvenile, regressive, and quite passé.....much like your command of the English language, spiritual knowledge and mental abilities.....Luv ya!!!!....oh yeah....do you even know what my race is???....
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A metaphor for eating HUMAN FLESH is no better than eating real flesh as I am concerned. I am not surprised you do not eat bread. I guess your watching your carbs. I do not care what your race is since we are all from the motherland except those with reptilian DNA in them.
Stay Blessed
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*cue Twilight Zone music*
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use this knowledge as a key and unlock your mind so you can step into a dimension of freedom and understanding. only then will you understand and feel the holy ghost.
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Use the red x as a key to get off this site.
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lMAO turkey was on point son!!!
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You are spawn of Satan don't you know that red x is a symbol the Illuminati!!!!! I shall not be moved like a tree planted by the river side!!!
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Go play in Illuminati traffic.
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Lorena you must be a self hating wannabe if you feel this way about me because I am you and You are me!!!!
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I am celibate but I would NOT want to date a guy who is. I'm celibate because I haven't found a guy I'm attracted to on that level, but if I was to get to know someone to the point that I want to jump his bones I would get mad if he denies me... I dated a much older guy who denied me and all I ended up thinking was that he might be gay even though he said he was trying to respect me...
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I am a celibate male that has been celibate going on 4 years now. Relationships are a whole lot better when you go with the flow of things instead of quickly mating and worrying about having sex all the time. A lot of my friends say i'm crazy for doing so but i mean i have been completely happy in the relationships i have been in. knowing that sex is not a crutch that you have to rely on makes you bond closer with the person you dating/in a relationship with.
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Usually unusually, if it started out that you were getting to know someone, and after about 8 months she started wanting to hit the sack, and even started sending naked pictures when you ignored her advances, would you still ignore after the naked pics??? isnt that kinda gay? when is it ok to break the celibacy?
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Emily, this is where personal choice comes in. If you have knowledge that someone is celibate, this is where you make the decision to proceed, or to stop and go no further. You know wether or not you can abstain from sex. If abstaining from sex is not possible for you, then this is not the person for you. To send someone naked pics in order to try and persuade someone to break their vow is disrespectful, and immature. A person has to be adult enough to make the proper decision in the beginning. It isnt gay for a man to ignore naked pics, it takes personal strength and integrity for a man to decline someones advances, and stick to what he believes in. Not all men are weak willed, and easily tempted. Its a very personal decision when someone decides to no longer remain celibate.
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I was just about to reply. Couldn't have said it any better
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preach it!
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"Isn't that kinda gay?"
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WTF? O_O
Chiile, please! Do you know what gay is? Gay is attraction to to same sex, NOT abstaining from sex from the opposite sex.. There is a huge difference
smh...smh....
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It all depends. Why is she celibate to begin with. Does she have the monkey? Itchy Scratchy? Herps? Hep C or some other never go away?
Or
Does she have some emotional instability due to molestation, rape, or deep seated sexual repression brought about by Mommies teachings that good girls dont have sex cause it's dirty or seeing celibacy as her gaining control over her life and regaining her femininity and power over the oppressive man.
How long has she been celibate and what is the criteria for her to stop.
I can understand with-holding and vowing to not do any ole' body and wait for someone you truly care about but I am sorry I am not waiting like a prisoner doin a murder bid.
Now I am not advocating random sex with any and er'body but I just wonder if people realize that sex drives/Libido's and well as the body's ability to function sexually all come with an expiration date which could quite possible supersede the one you set for celibacy.... then what...yeah no one ever thinks it will happen to them but it happens everyday
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Whhhhhaaaaatttttt?????.....LMBO @ this ENTIRE statement......your comments on pics always crack me up....but this one here......men have been known to reproduce well into their 70-80's and women in their 60's(although having to lie beside your infant while BOTH of you are getting your diapErs changed is a scary thought).....being celibate doesn't always denote some past sexual trauma, repressed sexual desire, disease or spiritual decision Kayborn....EVERYTHING comes with an expiration date....OPEN YOUR MIND.....LOL
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Actually its YOUR mind thats need to be open, I just expanded the reason why people become celibate past "Oh its my personal choice".
To try and ignore that people do become celibate due to Disease, trauma, repressed sexual desire or spiritual/moral crossroads is ridiculous.
You'd be suprised at how many women are celibate due to being molested or raped, sure when you hear that a person is celibate they arent gonna tell you that is why, nor are they gonna tell you that it is because of a disease, Oh and the women/men who become celibate until they get married or "find the right person" you dont think that is a spiritual/moral decision ...c'mon now.
As for the expiration date...I KNOW you aren't gonna be so rose colored glasses optimistic to think they way you or any one else in this world is gonna wake up tomorrow they same way they fell asleep from the night before, sh*t happens and it a lot and all the time, that's life.
Neurogenic Disorders, Cavernosal Disorders, Psychological causes, Kidney failure, Smoking, endometriosis, fibroids, antidepressants, oral contraceptives, chemical/hormonal imbalance, and so much more can cause a Man/Women to be unable to have sex...and what you think these things dont happen everyday? Please. I am sure there are many men and women last year who could put dents in a mattress all night long and who now literally cant because of one of many reasons and may never be able to again.
So yeah everything comes with an expiration date but I find it a little youthfully Naive to say or think that a person taking a five year sexual hiatus is unbound by the plans life has for them, again sh*t happens and people always thinks it's so far fetched until it happens to them or someone close to them, thats all I'm sayin.
Again I am not speaking against celibacy nor am I advocating random sex, if you are then cool, whatever, do you, I just decided to take topic a little further than where it was going, to make folks think beyond just being celibate.
You can have two people who love one another and The Man decides to join in the womans celibacy, 3 years later they decide to marry, 6 months before that he has kidney failure or maybe car accident, either way he no longer can perform. Thats not a wild movie style scenario, stuff like that happens in life and since no one mentioned it yet, being the guy I am I had to turn some light on it
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Okay. No. She can be celibate, and I can be her FRIEND. If that's someone's decision, then more power, and sexual frustration to them. As for myself, celibacy is not on my menu. Except right now. But that's not even my choice. Afghanistan and a whole grip of sausage is fueling this celibacy.
I would recommend celibacy for someone that can't separate love and lust. Someone with more children than they can afford (because they used protection every time *uh huh*) And for people that think a family picnic is akin to speed dating. Not saying those are the only reasons people should do the celibate thing, those are just the instances off the top of my head where I personally would recommend that particular practice. Hi, I'm new. Sup yall?
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Hope Mo is okay lol. I have visions of her being passed out still from the thanksgiving feast. The "itis" happens to the best of us mm mm mm
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i would only because its been 3yrs for me which sucks and not by choice just a bunch of dumb ass men but if i like the person like tht then i would hve to deal with it and come up with a way to mke them rethink their choice seriously
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